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Do you have what it takes to live with a roommate?

Living with a roommate is not as easy as one might think. While it’s a must-have experience in college as it’s got many perks attached to it – including weekend shindigs and sleepless nights -, sharing personal space with somebody else other than your partner (which at times might turn out difficult as well) might lose some of its appeal after graduation.

Living with a roommateI think every student dreams at some point of having the bathroom all to himself or listening to the same song on repeat without anyone shouting how irritating it is. On the other hand, living on your own requires much more responsibility on your part and not having somebody to talk to can be extremely demoralizing, especially if you’re a sociable, chatty person. So how does one choose right? Well, it actually depends on your personality and lifestyle; don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Here are a few things to consider before deciding one way or the other.

The available budget dictates most of our housing decisions. To keep things comfortable, make sure you don’t spend more than 30 percent of your monthly income on rent. With the rental rates going up and the high demand for urban living, getting a roommate might be a good idea and perhaps your only chance of living in a nice home while keeping household expenses at a decent level. Shelling out a few extra bucks will buy you a lot of privacy though, your choice.

Are you an only child? Then you’ll probably need more time to adjust to living with someone outside your family. Sharing may not come as natural to you as to people who had to deal with siblings their entire lives. Many only children are accustomed to having things done their way, go to bed when they want to, listen to the kind of music that they fancy or simply enjoy the silence when they feel like it. If you want to happily co-exist with a roomie you need to pay attention to what others want and need as well. Being considerate, respectful and polite is sometimes all that it takes to build a harmonious relationship. Maybe even get a friend for life out of it.

As you get ready to move out of your parents’ home, keep in mind one other thing. Home cooked meals may sound all fun and games in theory, but take hours in reality and never taste quite as good as your mom’s. On the plus side though, you’ll be able to keep calories under control and always know how much fat you’re actually ingesting.

One of the golden rules of living with a roommate is keeping your end of the bargain. Do your part when it comes to cleaning and shopping, and make sure you have your share of the rent at hand at the end of the month. Plus, you should remember that among roommates there’s a much appreciated sequence of doing things: it’s cook, eat, wash not cook, eat, watch TV, go out, sleep and then wonder why there aren’t any more clean dishes in the cabinet.

Roommates that have similar life philosophies and share common interests have every chance to succeed in mastering the art of sharing space. That means they understand each other and can relate to each other’s needs. The entire experience gets a lot more pleasant if there’s someone to hang out with after work, help out with the daily chores, feed your pet or water the plants while you’re away.

What do you think? Is it better to go solo or get a roommate?

 
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Posted by on May 9, 2014 in Lifestyle, Relationships, Roommates

 

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Decorating for two – double the fun, double the challenge

There comes a time when even the most independent and carefree woman must settle down. And sometimes it’s no easy thing as you’re accustomed to having things done your way; even a piece of clothing thrown randomly on the living room couch may bug you terribly at first. But one of the secrets to a happy co-existence is learning to compromise. Even the most stubborn and proud personalities have to learn to compromise if they want a peaceful relationship. In return you get to experience so many beautiful things. No more lonely nights for starters; but you also gain a best friend waiting for you at home, eager to learn about your day or laugh at your jokes, or someone who’s just there in times of trouble. And on the more practical side, you get to share everything, including bills, expenses and household chores.

For some people, moving in with that special someone is just a natural step in the development of a relationship. Others may find it difficult to combine lifestyles and daily routines. Here are a few decorating tips that will help you create a nurturing environment for the both of you.

Adopt a neutral design scheme. Personally, I’m a big fan of white interiors as they induce a state of relaxation and innocence. But if you want to establish a serene atmosphere you can also use decor pieces, rugs, furniture, picture frames or bedding in shades of gray, creamy beige and brown. Or use a neutral color palette as your base and toss in a textured pillow in a fun print or a vivacious houseplant for a plus of energy.

Don’t be afraid to incorporate a few masculine touches. A rougher approach to a design scheme can actually do tons of good to a place. It adds personality, strength and a more down-to-earth feel to a home.

I for one just love what exposed brick can do to a room. It’s a bold move but the effects can be spectacular. It’s a look that many think fit for a bachelor’s pad but it can perfectly complement a contemporary, minimalist design scheme fit for two.

Keep it comfortable and cool. Luckily for us, most men don’t have strong opinions about home décor so it’s pretty much up to us to beautify the space. You must know by now what he likes to do when he’s at home or what his passions are. If he likes reading let him have a reading nook, get a comfy armchair and a lamp, put them somewhere near a window and his corner is all set. If he’s a gamer, make a little room for his PlayStation. He’ll be glad to know that you’ve been thinking about his needs, too.

Remember, it’s his home, too. I know we’re ladies and we need our makeup, cosmetics, skincare and other beauty products, it’s what keeps us looking fresh and glowing all the time, am I right? But instead of having them lying all over the place, keep them looking neat somewhere in the closet or in the bathroom.

Romantic, whimsical style is a definite no – no. No pink or orange walls, get rid of the flowery, mushy linens and oversentimental decorations. Instead, focus more on creating a pleasant, more functional environment that could transform the apartment into a real home for you both.

 
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Posted by on November 1, 2013 in Design ideas, Relationships, Urban living

 

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Life lessons from hot celebs

While celebrities are not meant to be role models – we all know their job is to entertain – sometimes there’s a lot to learn from them, from overcoming great odds to investing time and effort in charitable actions. Just think of Giuliana and Bill Rancic and their inspiring life story. Fighting cancer and trying to build up a family in the same time is no easy thing. Yet they did it! After years of failed fertility treatments, they welcomed baby Edward Duke in August 2012 and now they are ready to welcome another bundle of joy to the family!

Another great couple which I think is worth all the hype is Bradgelina. One of the sexiest women alive, Angelina Jolie is much more than a Hollywood star. She’s a dedicated wife and caring mother who decided to put herself and her family above all else. She recently went through a double mastectomy to avoid breast cancer, a move many called “brave” and “inspiring”.

“I wanted to write this to tell other women that the decision to have a mastectomy was not easy. But it is one I am very happy that I made.” writes Angelina in The New York Times. “My chances of developing breast cancer have dropped from 87 percent to under 5 percent. I can tell my children that they don’t need to fear they will lose me to breast cancer.”

Meanwhile, Brad Pitt is playing his own part in the fight for humanity. His contribution to providing affordable housing to victims of Hurricane Katrina as part of the Make it Right project is just as laudable.

Make it Right began as an effort to rebuild the Lower 9th Ward in New Orleans, an area terribly hit by the massive storm in 2005. Of the 150 homes planned for the blighted neighborhood, a number of 86 homes are already in place and have all earned LEED Platinum, the highest level of certification offered by the U.S. Green Building Council.

Taking the initiative one step further, the foundation helped build an apartment building for disabled veterans in Newark, NJ, broke ground on an ambitious community development in a blighted Kansas City, MO neighborhood and partnered with Native American tribes to build homes on the Fort Peck Reservation.

Vampire Diaries star, Ian Somerhalder, has his mind set on protecting the animals and making the world, or at least part of Louisiana where he plans to build an Animal Sanctuary, a better place. The Ian Somerhalder Foundation is focused on providing a safe haven for all the outcast animals that have been neglected, mistreated and ultimately misunderstood. In addition to the animal shelter, plans include construction of a youth education center that would be home to summits on issues such as wildlife and land conservation and clean energy. Way to go, Ian!

What celebrity do you admire and look up to most?

 
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Posted by on June 17, 2013 in Celeb, Lifestyle, Relationships, Trending

 

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Funniest passive aggressive roommate notes

They say the best things in life are free. Well, I agree and may add that the best laughs in college life are free.

As exciting as it may seem at first, sharing space with someone other than family may pose a few difficulties along the way. For starters there’s always someone in the kitchen, drinking your milk, occupying the couch, talking on the phone with their BFFs a.s.o. There’s no way to go around that and it should be perfectly fine as long as you respect each other’s personal space. Respect is a key word in any relationship. And taking things lightly may help a lot too.

The best way to keep a roommate relationship on a sane level is to set some ground rules…and stick to them. When you feel like making a point to your roommie, do it with a dose of humor, it’s always easier to digest. Here are some of my favorite roommate notes, light and funny yet consistent enough to get the message through.

Can happen at the office too:

 
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Posted by on May 10, 2013 in College life, Relationships, Roommates

 

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Parents going rogue on Facebook

What other purpose is there to Facebook than showing off our moments of glory, socializing and commenting on friends’ photos?! Well, it seems that there’s much more to it than meets the eye. These creative parents took the social media concept to a whole new level, using it as a way to discipline their thirteen year old daughter. The ingenious duo took silly photos of themselves which they uploaded onto the social media platform, turning the girl’s updates into into a „wall” of shame.

The story got the attention of the media when a Reddit user, apparently the girl’s brother, posted one of the photos with the caption: „My parents took away my sisters phone for the week. They’ve uploaded about 10 of these to her facebook. Doing it right!”

Parents on FB

This alternative form of punishment may have caused a few laughs among her peers, yet it got mixed reactions from the general public and gave way to lots of discussions on the parenting theme.

While some commenters saw it as a fair reprimand and a funny joke, appreciating the couple’s sense of humor, others felt that this kind of virtual discipline can mark a kid forever, doing more harm than good.

What do you think? Did they do it right? Or is that too much of a punishment for a bratty kid?

Here’s another example of original Facebook parenting, effective or counterproductive, you decide:

And here’s how teens react to the video:

I don’t know about you, but I’m sure glad my parents did not have access to Facebook when I was a teen.

 

 
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Posted by on March 29, 2013 in Lifestyle, Relationships, Trending

 

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Valentine’s Day gift ideas for her

She’s been a fun and totally cool girlfriend. He’s been a caring and devoted partner. Why let all that talk about cheesiness cloud your judgment on the most romantic day of the year?! I agree that we shouldn’t wait until Valentine’s Day to show them how much they’re loved and appreciated, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do it on this occasion as well.

Winnie love

Here are a few funny, quirky and creative gift ideas to make your Valentine’s Day even more beautiful.

Pop the question. Rumor has it that women are hard to impress. They’ve seen and heard it all, they’ve been lured with flowers, sweets and jewelry, carriage rides under the moonlight, candlelight dinners and weekend getaways. So is there something left to make your proposal unique? Well, you might buy a star and name it after her or, if you’re a mere human like most of us, get your hands on a Marry Me lottery ticket. It looks like any other scratch-off lottery ticket you’d get at any local store but when she scratches off the card to see what she’s won she will be greeted with the question Will you marry me? on it. If she’s like any other woman I know, she’ll find it surprisingly romantic and adorable. Add a dinner for two to the equation and it will surely make a sweet memory.

Dulce de Leche receipe

Shout out your love to the four winds. To clarify each partner’s status in the relationship once and for all, get a Mr. Right and Mrs./Ms. Always Right ensemble, whether it’s a pillows set, mugs, luggage tags or t-shirts. This is a fabulous gift for couples who know the truth – and dig the humor!

Pillows set

Vintage love tastes better. The truth is women love gifts, glittery, pleasantly fragranced or practical, any kind of gift that has some positive karma attached to it. But if you’re looking for a seriously impressive and unique token of your love, go with vintage jewelry. That’s also Ivanka Trump’s idea of a perfect gift for Valentine’s, according to InStyle.com. “I’m making it increasingly difficult for my husband to buy me things. I have a jewelry line, a clothing line, a shoe line, and a handbag line, so he has to either go the vintage route or go completely outside of the box.”

Vintage necklace

For other great ideas on how to bring romanticism into your own home, check out this great post on Blogoteque.

 
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Posted by on February 12, 2013 in Celeb, Food, Holidays, Relationships

 

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Best & Worst break up strategies

If you’ve come to a point in your relationship where there’s nothing but shouting and fighting and tears, I hate to break it to you, dude, but the fairy-tale is over. Start looking for a way out, and fast. Nothing good is going to come out of this, you know, right? Unless your chick gets bumped in the head and turns into someone else, literally I mean, like she gets amnesia or something. Because that’s what you need, someone else.

Now, you don’t want to look totally insensitive, this is not who you are. Just think, what if you want to hook up with one of her friends in the future?! I’m sure she’ll be going around, telling her side of the story. So you’ll have to be smart and act smart about it.

While I generally think that being straightforward is the way to go, women are totally unpredictable. You’ll never truly know what’s inside their heads, no matter what they say. Their minds work differently than ours and you don’t want to push the “crazy” button. I’d stay away from lines like:

! “Dear Baby: Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: YOU”
! “I just can’t take the bad sex anymore.”
! “The problem with our relationship is, we’re in a relationship.”
! “I get so emotional when you’re not around…That emotion is called happiness.”
! “I have a sense of community, and you won’t let me sleep with the community.”

They just won’t get the subtlety of all that. Keep it simple, don’t pull back, and don’t succumb to any kind of emotional blackmail, they tend to go there and you might feel guilty (or not!). Here’s how you dump her…nicely:

# “Honestly? It’s you not me, you’re just too perfect for someone else. He’s out there waiting and I’m in the way.” Leave out the “And I’m perfect for the girl on Facebook.” part.
# “I need to focus more on my job!”
# “I wish we had met 5 years down the line. It’s just bad timing.”
# “I’m not over my ex.” This will get them a little mad but will do the trick.

Or you could just send her this video and say “Especially for you”:

 
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Posted by on November 19, 2012 in College life, Relationships

 

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